Wednesday Jun 13 2012
Stay-at-home dads also deserve kudos
By: Jon Brines, Placer Herald Correspondent
On this Father?s Day I?m reminded that stay-at-home dads are becoming increasingly common. If you look at the 2010 census it will tell you there are 154,000 stay-at-home dads in America. On my street, there are three that I know of, including myself. I recently discovered we have kids at different stages of their youth, but all with the same challenges. While my 3-year-old son faces potty training, my friend?s 6-year-old is learning about school and my other friend?s 12-year-old is discovering girls. There?s a common thread here. As fathers we instruct, cajole, and sometimes shout ?the right way? to do things to our sons with the hope someday they?ll do it on their own. Our challenge is to balance riding them versus letting them have responsibility. At the same time, we have to be ready when the responsible moment quickly becomes a teachable moment, an area of opportunity or just a plain screw up. Then I realize my son is teaching me. I?m training myself to be patient, put it into perspective and not lose it during the tough moments. I never thought I would have to train my concentration for those moments when my son wants to read a book for the hundredth time and my eyes are glazing over. Or that I would see the payoff of actually being disciplined in my daily duties when the kids and mom have everything they need and she finally knows I haven?t been sitting on the couch in my underwear all day. And then there are those moments when something clicks and your son starts saying, ?I got this, Dad.? And he does. Enjoy the satisfaction, guys. Father?s Day is our day!